A client of mine recently wrote to me saying: “I feel like I’m SO far behind and need to be insanely productive every single day.” behind in life
She was referring to feeling behind in her career, which is something I hear all the time from my clients (regardless of their age).But feeling behind can spill into every area of your life.
If your friends start getting married while you’re still single, it can make you feel behind.
When your colleagues all have mortgages and you’re still renting a tiny apartment, it can make you feel behind.
When you scroll through social media and see all of your high school friends posting baby pictures, it can make you feel behind.
If you see someone else living out your dream career and you’re still stuck at the same old company, it can make you feel behind.
WHAT’S GOING ON TO MAKE US ALL FEEL LIKE WE’RE FALLING BEHIND?
It makes sense why so many of us are feeling this way. For the first 18 (or more) years of our lives, we’re all pretty much on the same trajectory. While we’re in school, our paths are mostly laid out for us. We’re among peers, growing and going through the same milestones at the same general pace.
Then, after high school or college, we start going off on different paths, and the comparison about “who’s ahead” and “who’s behind” starts to gets murky.
we are based on external things we can see, like promotions, marriages, kids, houses, and other external mile markers.
we are based on external things we can see, like promotions, marriages, kids, houses, and other external mile markers.
We’ve been BFFs since college, but nothing cemented our friendship more than entering the “real world” and feeling like the only two people who weren’t OK with how mind-numbing and unfulfilling life had become.
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